Self-Coach Sunday 90: Surround Yourself With Beauty And Luxury

Transform mundane activities into luxuries and make them special occasions. Your morning bowl of cereal can become transformed by a beautiful bowl and fresh blueberries sprinkled on top. Coffee can become a real treat with a spoonful of real cream. And how difficult is it to light a candle at dinner or during your bath? Two seconds can lead to instant ambience. Go on, splurge! Drink your water out of a Crystal wine glass, load your bath with salts and oils, turn on music, buy a set of plush towels, find what is luxurious for you. Is it an ergonomic chair, down comforter, cloth napkins, flowers, nice hangers, a high-quality knife, books, fresh herbs for cooking? Start surrounding yourself with luxury and you will attract even more. What are some ways you can surround yourself with beauty and luxury today?

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Self-Coach Sunday 82: Stop Trying to Change People

Trying to change people is a waste of time. The only thing you can do is be a model for them. If they don’t pick up your modeling, move on. Life is too short.

People in our lives are often mirrors of ourselves. If you don’t like something in someone else, it is probably a mirror for the same trait you don’t like about yourself. Instead of changing the other person, look within and see where YOU can improve yourself. Learn what you can from other people, but forget trying to change them. Even better – see if you CAN”T find faults in others.

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Self-Coach Sunday 81: Accept Graciously

Most of us have no problem giving gifts; but some may find it difficult to accept them. Accept gifts graciously. Not only is it impolite, but also unattractive to reject a gift or compliment. Remove the clique sayings:”It was really nothing,” or “oh, this old thing,” or “I just bought it on sale.” Simply say, “Thank you!” – maybe include a smile:)

By accepting graciously, you increase the chances of pleasure-giving. Grant the giver the full satisfaction of this compliment or gift. You can practice this yourself by giving three genuine compliments each day this week to different people and notice how they respond.  Then, notice how you feel about the response. In addition to accepting graciously, don’t forget to be gracious. Say thank you often.

One last thing: thank you for reading my post and supporting my mission as a coach to help move you forward!

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Self-Coach Sunday 80: Convert Compliments Into Acknowledgments

One way to attract success is to convert your compliments into acknowledgments. Compliments come fairly often: “what a beautiful scarf”, or “that was a great performance.” Although getting these are wonderful, acknowledgments are even better. When you acknowledge someone it is about who the person is, instead of what the person has or does. For example: “I really appreciate the support you have shown by coming all the way from Baltimore to see my concert. Your presence is meaningful.” This is very personal and leaves that person feeling good about himself.

A compliment is great; an acknowledgement is more meaningful. Practice giving acknowledgments with people you encounter. Be as specific as possible. Instead of saying “you’re terrific,” say, “you’re a great speaker. I admire how poised and graceful you handle yourself.” Know a great cook? Instead of saying, “what a delicious dinner!” you could say, “this is a superb meal. Your attention to detail is incredible.”

Giving an acknowledgment is energizing for both the giver and the receiver. Change this one thing and you will attract people.

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Self-Coach Sunday 79: Say It Like It Is, But Gently

Prepare people for what you have to say. Avoid the difficult, awkward and even painful things you may say to people by saying it like it is. For example: let someone know that what you want to talk to them about isn’t easy for you and may be difficult for them to hear. The point is not to sugar-coat what you say – say exactly what you need to in a way that the other person can hear and understand. It is not about saying something to upset someone – so be gently. Even though you are “saying it like it is,” be in a positive and unconditionally constructive state with everything you say.

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