Self-Coach Sunday 79: Say It Like It Is, But Gently

Prepare people for what you have to say. Avoid the difficult, awkward and even painful things you may say to people by saying it like it is. For example: let someone know that what you want to talk to them about isn’t easy for you and may be difficult for them to hear. The point is not to sugar-coat what you say – say exactly what you need to in a way that the other person can hear and understand. It is not about saying something to upset someone – so be gently. Even though you are “saying it like it is,” be in a positive and unconditionally constructive state with everything you say.

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Self-Coach Sunday 76: Listen Profoundly

Now that you have stopped talking so much, you will have more time to listen. Are you a good listener? Most people think they are. Listening is an art, and like any skill, it takes practice. Stop worrying about what you are going to say. What really attracts people is how well you listen. The way to build trust is to listen, and keep on listening.

One rule of thumb is to talk 20 percent of the time and listen 80 percent. Try this today and see what happens. And remember, if you are talking in your head, judging or thinking of your reply, then you are not truly listening. Be aware of how much you talk to yourself, while you are listening to someone else. Then, shift your focus back on the other person. Really hear everything that person has to say.  The more profoundly you listen, the more people will enjoy being around you.

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Self-Coach Sunday 73: Communicate with Power, Grace and Style

You now have a solid foundation, increased your energy by getting rid of drains, and have positive energy coming your way. You have opened space for what you truly want in life.

The next ten blog posts are not so much about doing, but more about a way of being. This includes communicating with power, grace and style. This goes way beyond the surface – it is all about being who you are. Not just looking the part, but truly being – plain and simple.

The next ten blogs will guide you to your best and most successful self. Letting yourself shine from the inside out. We will start by fine-tuning your communication skills. See you tomorrow.

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Self-Coach Sunday 60: Get Some Perspective

Still trying to find your path in life? You may need to take a retreat from your current life and get a broader perspective. Go outside of yourself to see what really fills you up.

Here are some ways to take a retreat:

  1. Pack your bags and head to a B-n-B or cabin in the woods
  2. House sit for a friend
  3. Get out of the house – go to a cafe, restaurant, park, library, etc.
  4. Go on a yoga/spa retreat or to a ranch
  5. Go to a monastery or abbey

Try to go away or at least leave your house during the day for at least three days, if you can. Even one day can make a difference. Be sure to pack a  journal to record your thoughts. Keep it simple and don’t pack too much. During this time, get creative and find some way to get perspective on your life.

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Self-Coach Sunday 46: Find Your Own Family

It can be difficult to attract the success you want without close friends and family who love and support you unconditionally. What is success without someone to share it with? You may have been born into a loving supportive family, but if not, create your own. Find people who will “adopt” you and love you. Instead of complaining or blaming parents and family members for your problems, just accept them for who they are and start looking for someone who can support you. We assume our parents will here forever.  This isn’t the case – consider building your”other” support family now so you will be supported no matter what. And by all means, enjoy all of your families now. Tell them how much you love them with words and actions.

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