Self-Coach Sunday 80: Convert Compliments Into Acknowledgments

One way to attract success is to convert your compliments into acknowledgments. Compliments come fairly often: “what a beautiful scarf”, or “that was a great performance.” Although getting these are wonderful, acknowledgments are even better. When you acknowledge someone it is about who the person is, instead of what the person has or does. For example: “I really appreciate the support you have shown by coming all the way from Baltimore to see my concert. Your presence is meaningful.” This is very personal and leaves that person feeling good about himself.

A compliment is great; an acknowledgement is more meaningful. Practice giving acknowledgments with people you encounter. Be as specific as possible. Instead of saying “you’re terrific,” say, “you’re a great speaker. I admire how poised and graceful you handle yourself.” Know a great cook? Instead of saying, “what a delicious dinner!” you could say, “this is a superb meal. Your attention to detail is incredible.”

Giving an acknowledgment is energizing for both the giver and the receiver. Change this one thing and you will attract people.

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Self-Coach Sunday 70: Make A Radical Change

Are you looking for change but feel stuck? Lets look at why you aren’t making progress. Is there something preventing you from taking action? Is it fear? Are you just not interested in that particular action? Don’t let these unanswered questions lead you to quit. Remove the blocks and fears.

One way to do this is to get rid of the goal and create a new one that you don’t need motivation to tackle. Make sure you focus this new goal on getting what you want – directly. Don’t go on a diet to find a partner; instead, create a plan just to find a partner. Ditch the diet part. It is not what you need to do to get a partner.

What if you are still stuck? Make a radical change. Do something completely different and go in the opposite direction. Just don’t do the same old thing. If you want a different result then try something different.

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Self-Coach Sunday 67: Take A Power Nap

If you already meditate, good for you! If meditation doesn’t work for you then consider calling that time a power nap. Set the scene: pillow, comfy throw, relaxing music or sounds of waves, closed eyes, or whatever makes you feel relaxed.  The point here is to do nothing. You can even fall asleep. If thought pop up in your head, have a pen and pad handy to jot them down and clear them out. Now, just lie there until you feel like getting up.

This time may offer a much needed clearing out, or a welcome of new ideas. You may even get answers to things that you have been pondering. The point is really to take time to meditate, relax and do nothing.  But if something does come up, keep note.

See if you can find time to sit. You can work in a daily power nap and make some space for creative thought to flourish.

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Self-Coach Sunday 63: Strengthen Your Strengths

This is a time to lay down your notion of doing it all and doing everything perfectly. We live in a time where we do not need to do it all. What if you just strengthened your strengths? Really take a look at what you are good at, and focus on or master that. Just delegate the rest.

People who master a strength tend to attract the good life. Doing a lot of things fairly well is not as valuable as doing one thing extremely well. Mastery is an art. Stop trying to be good at everything. Instead, focus on your strengths. Keep track of the things that you don’t like to do or are not your strengths. Rather than trying to do them, find someone else to do them for you.

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Self-Coach Sunday 59: Find Your Path In Life

Knowing what you want to do in life can be the key to happiness. Those with a plan, vision, purpose or goal will naturally attract people who are interested in going in the same direction.

Ask yourself these questions:

  1. What is my purpose in life?
  2. What am I hear to accomplish or learn?
  3. What’s in my soul and heart to do?

Then, write down the answers in the form of a statement.  Ex. my purpose is to learn and love as fully as possible. Or, my purpose is to be a happy traveler. Your purpose does not have to be earth-shattering in scope. Be honest, real and simple.

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