Self-Coach Sunday 45: Ask For What You Really Want

Most often a lot of hurt, frustration and energy would be saved if we just asked for what we really wanted. It sounds simple, but most people are reluctant to do this. The first thing to realize is that most people don’t know what you want, how you wish to be loved, or what you need. Often what happens is we GIVE what WE would like to receive. We are all different and have different needs.

Ask yourself: what do I need? Once you have identified your needs, it is time to ask your friends and family, or even colleagues, to satisfy those needs. Be specific. Set a goal to ask five different people to meet a given need. Try to overdue your goal – try to get more than enough!

Once you do this, you will come across much less needy, and be more satisfied and confident. Ideally you want to get your needs so completely satisfied that they appear to “disappear.”

Ask away! And don’t forget to acknowledge others for doing it. This is a challenging goal, but well worth it. Don’t skip this one.

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Self-Coach Sunday 23: Plug the Money Drains

Mistake number one: believing that the quickest and easiest way to solve financial problems is to figure out some way to make more money. Don’t fall for the “get rich quick” scheme. The problem is that money is not the answer to most problems.

What is the answer? The fastest way to solve your money problems is to get to the root of why you are overspending or in financial trouble in the first place. If you don’t figure this out first, any extra money you make will just get washed down the same old drain. Instead, plug the drain and any extra money you make will add up quickly and begin working for you.

Having unmet emotional needs is the most typical money drain. We are conditioned to just go out and buy something and we will feel fine. The reality is: the only way to fill an emotional need is to figure out what that need really is , and then go get it met. No amount of money will ever be enough to fill your emotional needs.

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Please visit my Facebook Page.

Wellness Coaching Pointer: Ask For What You Really Want

Most often a lot of hurt, frustration and energy would be saved if we just asked for what we really wanted. It sounds simple, but most people are reluctant to do this. The first thing to realize is that most people don’t know what you want, how you wish to be loved, or what you need. Often what happens is we GIVE what WE would like to receive. We are all different and have different needs.

Ask yourself: what do I need? Once you have identified your needs, it is time to ask your friends and family, or even colleagues, to satisfy those needs. Be specific. Set a goal to ask five different people to meet a given need. Try to overdue your goal – try to get more than enough!

Once you do this, you will come across much less needy, and be more satisfied and confident. Ideally you want to get your needs so completely satisfied that they appear to “disappear.”

Ask away! And don’t forget to acknowledge others for doing it. This is a challenging goal, but well worth it. Don’t skip this one.

Screen shot 2015-01-31 at 11.22.41 AM

If you are interested in coaching or have questions, please feel free to contact me.

Please visit my Facebook Page.

Wellness Coaching Pointer: Plug the Money Drains

Mistake number one: believing that the quickest and easiest way to solve financial problems is to figure out some way to make more money. Don’t fall for the “get rich quick” scheme. The problem is that money is not the answer to most problems.

What is the answer? The fastest way to solve your money problems is to get to the root of why you are overspending or in financial trouble in the first place. If you don’t figure this out first, any extra money you make will just get washed down the same old drain. Instead, plug the drain and any extra money you make will add up quickly and begin working for you.

Having unmet emotional needs is the most typical money drain. We are conditioned to just go out and buy something and we will feel fine. The reality is: the only way to fill an emotional need is to figure out what that need really is , and then go get it met. No amount of money will ever be enough to fill your emotional needs.

Screen shot 2015-01-10 at 3.42.57 PM

If you are interested in coaching or have questions, please feel free to contact me.

Please visit my Facebook Page.