Most often a lot of hurt, frustration and energy would be saved if we just asked for what we really wanted. It sounds simple, but most people are reluctant to do this. The first thing to realize is that most people don’t know what you want, how you wish to be loved, or what you need. Often what happens is we GIVE what WE would like to receive. We are all different and have different needs.
Ask yourself: what do I need? Once you have identified your needs, it is time to ask your friends and family, or even colleagues, to satisfy those needs. Be specific. Set a goal to ask five different people to meet a given need. Try to overdue your goal – try to get more than enough!
Once you do this, you will come across much less needy, and be more satisfied and confident. Ideally you want to get your needs so completely satisfied that they appear to “disappear.”
Ask away! And don’t forget to acknowledge others for doing it. This is a challenging goal, but well worth it. Don’t skip this one.
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