Self-Coach Sunday 44: Identify Your Needs

How do you figure out your needs in the first place? Having emotional needs met helps you be at your best. When needs aren’t met you may feel irritable, unappreciated, angry, resentful, jealous, or deprived. Any one of these may indicate that your needs are not being met.

Pick your top 2-3 needs – what you must have to be at your best. Once you figure these out it will be much easier to fulfill or satisfy them. If some of the needs are negative in nature (drinking, overeating, overspending or any excess that harms the body and mind) that is important too.  You will have the need to balance that with more healthful behaviors. Even if you have addictive behaviors, your unmet needs may be prompting you to do things that aren’t in your best interest. Our needs are powerful and they drive our behaviors. If you are having trouble figuring this out, you may want to work with a health coach. Once you identify your needs, you will be ready to ask for what you really want.

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Self-Coach Sunday 39: Procrastinate With A Purpose

Procrastination may have a bad reputation. Many people consider it a weakness. What if it were a good thing? What if it showed you the way to living your dreams and reaching your true goals?

Ask yourself: why do I procrastinate? Is it because you don’t like doing something? See if you can get rid of that task or delegate it to someone else. Try to find a way to remove that thing you don’t like doing. Do you procrastinate because you can’t find the time? Design your schedule so that you build in recurring time for this task. Do you procrastinate because you don’t really want to do something? Then evaluate whether this goal is worth having in the first place. Do you get stuck? Then get help with the task. Do you need time to mull things over? Take the time to get your thoughts together. At some point, you will be ready to start that goal again. Are you afraid? Yes, you may fail, but then you will have to live with knowing you never tried. Far better to do it and fail, then being weighted down with the “what if.”

I hope this helps you see the value in why procrastination is a good thing. It can show you the way to a solution.  Just make that list of all the things your are procrastinating about and then figure out the reason. Then you will know what it all means.

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Self-Coach Sunday 38: Do Complete Work

Is your mentality to save time by getting the job done as quickly as possible? That may save time in the short term, but doing complete work saves time in the long run and gives you the mental space and clarity to tackle the next project.  When work is done so well and so complete, it won’t come back to haunt you.

What would that look like? That would mean taking time to research the task at hand, take time on it, problem solve if needed, identify the action needed, and implement it accurately.  And, check your accuracy again. If you really go all out on a project and do a super job, it is personally fulfilling. You will be proud of your work, which is reason enough to do good work every time. See if there are ways to extend this notion to your relationships. What if you left nothing hanging or said everything you needed to say in your relationship? You may be able to free up some mental space, and tie up any loose ends in your life.

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Self-Coach Sunday: Its All Good, Even The Bad Stuff

If you thought stress was the bad guy – you’re right, if you think stress is good for you – you’re right!

Watch this fantastic Ted Talk by Kelly McGonigal : Make Stress Your Friend which shows us a different way to look at stress and how to manage it. It just goes to prove ‘It’s All Good, Even The Bad Stuff’. It is easier to have a positive attitude if you realize that everything is good, even the bad stuff. In order to fully appreciate the good things in life, we almost have to experience their opposites……….

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Wellness Coaching Pointer: Identify Your Needs

How do you figure out your needs in the first place? Having emotional needs met help you be at your best. When needs aren’t met you may feel irritable, unappreciated, angry, resentful, jealous, or deprived. Any one of these may indicate that your needs are not being met.

Pick your top 2-3 needs – what you must have to be at your best. Once you figure these out it will be much easier to fulfill or satisfy them. If some of the needs are negative in nature (drinking, overeating, overspending or any excess that harms the body and mind) that is important too.  You will have the need to balance that with more healthful behaviors. Even if you have addictive behaviors, your unmet needs may be prompting you to do things that aren’t in your best interest. Our needs are powerful and they drive our behaviors. If you are having trouble figuring this out, you may want to work with a health coach. Once you identify your needs, you will be ready to ask for what you really want.

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Please visit my Facebook Page.