Self-Coach Sunday 74: Stop The Gossip

As much as you may love hearing about the dirt on someone, do you ever wonder what others might be saying about you when you aren’t around? No one trusts gossip. You may really miss out on profound conversations because of trust or lack of trust. The rule is to avoid talking about someone who isn’t present. That is a simple rule to follow. Every time you don’t follow it – it is gossip.

A graceful way to steer the conversation away from gossip is to say, “I’d rather hear about you; or I don’t feel comfortable talking about someone who isn’t present.”

What is wrong with a little friendly gossip? Simply put, it can be harmful and destructive. The benefit of giving up gossip: people will start to trust you.

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Self-Coach Sunday 63: Strengthen Your Strengths

This is a time to lay down your notion of doing it all and doing everything perfectly. We live in a time where we do not need to do it all. What if you just strengthened your strengths? Really take a look at what you are good at, and focus on or master that. Just delegate the rest.

People who master a strength tend to attract the good life. Doing a lot of things fairly well is not as valuable as doing one thing extremely well. Mastery is an art. Stop trying to be good at everything. Instead, focus on your strengths. Keep track of the things that you don’t like to do or are not your strengths. Rather than trying to do them, find someone else to do them for you.

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Self-Coach Sunday 59: Find Your Path In Life

Knowing what you want to do in life can be the key to happiness. Those with a plan, vision, purpose or goal will naturally attract people who are interested in going in the same direction.

Ask yourself these questions:

  1. What is my purpose in life?
  2. What am I hear to accomplish or learn?
  3. What’s in my soul and heart to do?

Then, write down the answers in the form of a statement.  Ex. my purpose is to learn and love as fully as possible. Or, my purpose is to be a happy traveler. Your purpose does not have to be earth-shattering in scope. Be honest, real and simple.

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Self-Coach Sunday 55: Discover Your Unique Talent

We all have something that we do or some way we see it that is different or better than anyone else. This is something that may come easy to you, but not easy for someone else. Here is a way to discover your unique talents:

Interview your friends, family and colleagues.

Here are some questions to ask them:

  1. What do you think is my greatest strength?
  2. What is my biggest weakness?
  3. What do you see as my special talent or gift? Something that is effortless and comes naturally to me.
  4. When am I fully expressing this gift of talent?

The next step is to do these things that come easy to you. People who do work that is in line with their natural talents and values are very happy and feel rewarded and fulfilled. Do one thing today that expresses one of your gifts. Then incorporate it into your daily life.

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