Self-Coach Sunday 44: Identify Your Needs

How do you figure out your needs in the first place? Having emotional needs met helps you be at your best. When needs aren’t met you may feel irritable, unappreciated, angry, resentful, jealous, or deprived. Any one of these may indicate that your needs are not being met.

Pick your top 2-3 needs – what you must have to be at your best. Once you figure these out it will be much easier to fulfill or satisfy them. If some of the needs are negative in nature (drinking, overeating, overspending or any excess that harms the body and mind) that is important too.  You will have the need to balance that with more healthful behaviors. Even if you have addictive behaviors, your unmet needs may be prompting you to do things that aren’t in your best interest. Our needs are powerful and they drive our behaviors. If you are having trouble figuring this out, you may want to work with a health coach. Once you identify your needs, you will be ready to ask for what you really want.

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Wellness Coaching Pointer: Be Brilliant, Courageous, Talented, And Fabulous

The real key to success in life is harnessing the power of thought. Science has demonstrated that thoughts are very powerful. Thoughts are just electrical signals – another form of energy as real as the screen in front of you. Science is just starting to catch up to New Age thinkers and what they have been saying all along – our thoughts create our reality.

The past 100 or so blog posts on this website support and promote the power, clarity and vibrancy you have. We are now stepping into the powerful part – thinking you are brilliant, courageous, talented and fabulous. Everyone is constantly sending signals out at every moment. Why not make yours positive? Go forth and shine!

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If you are interested in coaching or have questions, please feel free to contact me.

Please visit my Facebook Page.

Wellness Coaching Pointer: Identify Your Needs

How do you figure out your needs in the first place? Having emotional needs met help you be at your best. When needs aren’t met you may feel irritable, unappreciated, angry, resentful, jealous, or deprived. Any one of these may indicate that your needs are not being met.

Pick your top 2-3 needs – what you must have to be at your best. Once you figure these out it will be much easier to fulfill or satisfy them. If some of the needs are negative in nature (drinking, overeating, overspending or any excess that harms the body and mind) that is important too.  You will have the need to balance that with more healthful behaviors. Even if you have addictive behaviors, your unmet needs may be prompting you to do things that aren’t in your best interest. Our needs are powerful and they drive our behaviors. If you are having trouble figuring this out, you may want to work with a health coach. Once you identify your needs, you will be ready to ask for what you really want.

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If you are interested in coaching or have questions, please feel free to contact me.

Please visit my Facebook Page.

Monday Motivation

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What motivates you to change and grow? Just as we are unique individuals, we have unique motivations. Simply put, motivation is an act or process that gives reason or meaning to doing something. It is what causes us to act. That can be getting a snack, answering the phone, going to work or exercising. Motivation is made up of forces that can activate behavior. The forces include: biological, emotional, social, and cognitive. We often use this term in daily life to describe why a person does something. For example, she is so motivated to (fill in the blank).

These “whys” of behavior are what can lead to change, and growth. It is what most health and wellness (H&W) coaches seek in their clients. My job as a wellness coach is to ask powerful questions that help the client discover the needs or wants that drive behavior and change in them; and explain why they do or want to do something. The way a H&W coach does this is by:

  1. Engaging with the client and talking about issues, concerns and hopes. Establishing trust.
  2. Focus by narrowing the conversation down to habits and behaviors the client wants to change.
  3. Evoking the client to elicit change through importance to them, confidence and readiness.
  4. Planning to develop doable and practical steps that lead to the desired change

Working with a H&W coach can help you explore, elicit, examine and engage these motivations in a collaborative, strengths-based, whole-person, nurturing environment that moves  toward a desired goal.  Coaches are great listeners! We can help you see where you are on the “readiness” meter of change, and help you make a plan to move that readiness into action. Are you looking to lose weight, get a new job, be happier in a relationship, heal an ailment, get healthier, eat cleaner, get more organized, let go of a negative habit, start your own business, reduce bodily discomfort, tackle a fear?  What do you want to change?

Now is the time. You can do this. Just make sure you have a plan. If you are ready to explore and develop your plan, private message me: www.facebook.com/WellnesswithPamStevens

Holiday Healing

Tis the season…for getting sick.  You’ve fought it off all through the fall and winter; then, the holidays arrive, you get some time off, and you come down with a cold, flu or worse. I recently read a couple of articles that inspired me to share the details of why we get sick and how to keep healthy all the time, even through the stress of holidays.

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First, we need to understand why we get sick. There are really 4 main reasons why we become sick:

1. Stress – this can be from physical or emotional in nature. Perhaps your work is pressured, your daily routines are too over-scheduled, you are a worrier, you are holding anger and not confronting it, you hold yourself to too high of a standard, or perhaps you have some heavier challenges that are weighing you down whether physical or mental or health-wise.

2. Focus – by focus, I mean either a positive or negative view of you and your life. The very thought you have when you first awake can set a chain reaction in you body and your day.  It has been shown that negative thoughts really do hamper your body’s health and diminish the body’s ability to fight of infection and disease.  Chose to be positive, even when you may feel otherwise.

3. Mental distress and distraction – you may have something that is pervading your thoughts all day.  Address it and don’t let it fester. Not being aware of your present moment puts a great deal of stress on the mind and as a result the body. Constant distraction is a sign that your health is headed for a bad turn.  Stay in the moment.

4. Body environment – if you are consumed with the three previous reasons we become sick, then your body weakens and it become the perfect host for any virus or bacteria that comes along.

Here are ways you can counteract the things that bring on sickness:

1. Visualization – imagine releasing toxins, pulling in healing energy.  Really create a vision by closing your eyes and imagining what this looks like.

2. Take on a positive attitude about everything. If you have pain when you awake, just be happy that there is light when you open your eyes in the morning, that your sheets are warm and cozy. Erase the first sign of a negative thought by immediately going to the positive.

3. Take time.  Breathe, rest, read, do nothing, walk slow, be late for something if rushing puts you in harm. Sleep in, go to bed early, play with your pet, hug your kids. Do whatever it is that slows you down and makes you feel indulgent.

4. Believe the body can heal.  You deserve to heal, and can heal. The mind is where it all starts.  Set that right and the healing WILL take place.

5. Make good choices. This means in all areas: food, exercise, friendship, words, actions, interactions, and doing every daily thing you do.

6. Give yourself permission to heal. This may be a bit redundant to #4, but it is worth listing again.

So, what do you do if you do get sick?  Here are the answers:

1. Positive thoughts. This is your prescription. Absolutely no negative thoughts no matter what sensations your body is feeling.

2. Distract yourself from the pain of disease. Do whatever you require to divert yourself from the negative – rent a movie, listen to music, read a book, take a bath, have a friend over…whatever it is that changes the focus of your current thought.

3. Do things that comfort you. Warm pajamas, hot tea, bath, fuzzy socks, a blanket, heating pad, pillows, a snuggly pet.

4. Rest, rest, rest.

5. Hydrate the heck out of yourself. You should be flooding yourself with nothing but good water.  It flushes the toxins out of your body and keeps you from creating a bad ecological system within.  Keep it clean with water!

6. Eat nutrient rich food. Juicing is great!  Stick to fruits and vegetables.  Avoid: sugar, dairy, meat, fried foods, processed foods, and acid foods. Eat alkaline foods.

7. Sit in the sunlight. Try to get up to 20 minutes a day.  Expose as much skin as you can for this period of time.  The sun has vitamin D and all kinds of great healing agents.  You might want to avoid times in the sun between 10am and 3pm when light is at its strongest.

8. Gargle with sea salt water a few times a day.

9. Sip water that has been boiled in an iron pot.  Store this ionized water in a stainless steel container and drink throughout the day.

10. Do not go back to the things you were doing prior to sickness.  Evaluate and change your life to remove the things that lead to sickness.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog.  I hope these practices lead you to health and happiness all year long.

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