Self-Coach Sunday 69: Get Yourself Unstuck

The key to making a big change is to make a little change. It is all about inertia. The idea of making a big change can be overwhelming, so we don’t do anything. Inertia – the tendency of bodies at rest to stay at rest – will keep you where you are unless you do something.

This is where taking baby steps comes in to play. Try creating a plan with smaller steps.  This can lead to the big change over time. Any change may lead to more change. So, take a different route home, drink tea instead of coffee, eat at a new restaurant. Any small change will do. This momentum get you going and can lead you to bigger changes effortlessly.

What small change can you make today to help create upward momentum?

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Self-Coach Sunday 44: Identify Your Needs

How do you figure out your needs in the first place? Having emotional needs met helps you be at your best. When needs aren’t met you may feel irritable, unappreciated, angry, resentful, jealous, or deprived. Any one of these may indicate that your needs are not being met.

Pick your top 2-3 needs – what you must have to be at your best. Once you figure these out it will be much easier to fulfill or satisfy them. If some of the needs are negative in nature (drinking, overeating, overspending or any excess that harms the body and mind) that is important too.  You will have the need to balance that with more healthful behaviors. Even if you have addictive behaviors, your unmet needs may be prompting you to do things that aren’t in your best interest. Our needs are powerful and they drive our behaviors. If you are having trouble figuring this out, you may want to work with a health coach. Once you identify your needs, you will be ready to ask for what you really want.

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Self-Coach Sunday 43: Forgive In Advance

Being angry and resentful is a huge energy drain. If you want to feel ten pounds lighter, all you need to do is call somebody you hurt or wronged and apologize. Yes, do this even if it wasn’t your fault. Be bold and even call the people who hurt you and forgive them! It takes courage to forgive. Give up the fight now. It is not about who is right or wrong. It is about freeing yourself from the negative energy you are carrying around.

Make a list of people you are holding a grudge about. Get on the phone or start writing letters or emails. Talk in a neutral tone, but don’t forgive someone when you may still have feeling of rancor or resentment.  In that case seek out a coach or therapist. Chances are, the people you’re resenting don’t even remember what the issue was in the first place. Start making amends today!

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Self-coach Sunday 42: Make Amends

The best way to start attracting great people into your life is to clean up the relationships you already have. “Maintain what you have before you expand.” How about we start with the relationship with yourself! What are your less than desirable traits? Are you too critical and judgmental of others? Keep in mind that there is nothing attractive about judging others. And, nobody likes to be judged.

People who are judgmental are usually hard on themselves. They hold themselves to a high standard and beat themselves up when they don’t reach it. The cure for this is to forgive yourself first. When you are not so hard on yourself, you will have room in your heart to forgive others too. It really does start with you.

If you find this helpful, list the things you have been carrying around with you or still beating yourself up about. Forgive yourself first! Now go through that list and see whom you can contact now to apologize. In some cases and apology will be enough, in others you may need to make reparations or amends. This is very liberating and can free up an incredible amount of energy. Apologize, make amends, and above all, forgive yourself.

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Self-Coach Sunday 40: Set Aside Sacred Evenings

A sacred evening is one that you reserve for yourself to do exactly as you please. What does this look like? Only you can answer that, but here are some ideas: a stroll in the park, bubble bath, massage, reading a book, concert or just doing nothing. It is a time for you to be by yourself, to play, to rest, to relax. Setting this time apart for higher purposes makes it sacred for you. Avoid doing mundane tasks or to-do’s during this time. If you don’t take this time, it will get schedule away like the rest of your life.

What to do with this time? Be creative! Use the time to come up with ideas, dream or finally begin that novel. Want to develop your creative side even more? Buy some paints and play around with them, see an opera, visit a museum. The idea is to do one thing a week to nurture your creative self.

Look at your calendar, take out a yellow highlighter, and block off these free evenings. Block off one a week. If you have children, have your spouse watch them during your one night. You can then return the favor. You will each be relaxed, refreshed and happier.

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