Self-Coach Sunday 80: Convert Compliments Into Acknowledgments

One way to attract success is to convert your compliments into acknowledgments. Compliments come fairly often: “what a beautiful scarf”, or “that was a great performance.” Although getting these are wonderful, acknowledgments are even better. When you acknowledge someone it is about who the person is, instead of what the person has or does. For example: “I really appreciate the support you have shown by coming all the way from Baltimore to see my concert. Your presence is meaningful.” This is very personal and leaves that person feeling good about himself.

A compliment is great; an acknowledgement is more meaningful. Practice giving acknowledgments with people you encounter. Be as specific as possible. Instead of saying “you’re terrific,” say, “you’re a great speaker. I admire how poised and graceful you handle yourself.” Know a great cook? Instead of saying, “what a delicious dinner!” you could say, “this is a superb meal. Your attention to detail is incredible.”

Giving an acknowledgment is energizing for both the giver and the receiver. Change this one thing and you will attract people.

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Self-Coach Sunday 45: Ask For What You Really Want

Most often a lot of hurt, frustration and energy would be saved if we just asked for what we really wanted. It sounds simple, but most people are reluctant to do this. The first thing to realize is that most people don’t know what you want, how you wish to be loved, or what you need. Often what happens is we GIVE what WE would like to receive. We are all different and have different needs.

Ask yourself: what do I need? Once you have identified your needs, it is time to ask your friends and family, or even colleagues, to satisfy those needs. Be specific. Set a goal to ask five different people to meet a given need. Try to overdue your goal – try to get more than enough!

Once you do this, you will come across much less needy, and be more satisfied and confident. Ideally you want to get your needs so completely satisfied that they appear to “disappear.”

Ask away! And don’t forget to acknowledge others for doing it. This is a challenging goal, but well worth it. Don’t skip this one.

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Wellness Coaching Pointer: Convert Compliments Into Ackowledgments

One way to attract success is to convert your compliments into acknowledgments. Compliments come fairly often: “what a beautiful scarf”, or “that was a great performance.” Although getting these is wonderful, but acknowledgments are even better. When you acknowledge someone it is about who the person is, instead of what the person has or does. For example: “I really appreciate the support you have shown by coming all the way from Baltimore to see my concert. Your presence is meaningful.” This is very personal and leaves that person feeling good about himself.

A compliment is great; an acknowledgement is more meaningful. Practice giving acknowledgments with people you encounter. Be as specific as possible. Instead of saying “you’re terrific,” say, “you’re a great speaker. I admire how poised and graceful you handle yourself.” Know a great cook? Instead of saying, “what a delicious dinner!” you could say, “this is a superb meal. Your attention to detail is incredible.”

Giving an acknowledgment is energizing for both the giver and the receiver. Change this one thing and you will attract people.

Screen shot 2015-03-07 at 2.54.07 PM

If you are interested in coaching or have questions, please feel free to contact me.

Please visit my Facebook Page.

Wellness Coaching Pointer: Ask For What You Really Want

Most often a lot of hurt, frustration and energy would be saved if we just asked for what we really wanted. It sounds simple, but most people are reluctant to do this. The first thing to realize is that most people don’t know what you want, how you wish to be loved, or what you need. Often what happens is we GIVE what WE would like to receive. We are all different and have different needs.

Ask yourself: what do I need? Once you have identified your needs, it is time to ask your friends and family, or even colleagues, to satisfy those needs. Be specific. Set a goal to ask five different people to meet a given need. Try to overdue your goal – try to get more than enough!

Once you do this, you will come across much less needy, and be more satisfied and confident. Ideally you want to get your needs so completely satisfied that they appear to “disappear.”

Ask away! And don’t forget to acknowledge others for doing it. This is a challenging goal, but well worth it. Don’t skip this one.

Screen shot 2015-01-31 at 11.22.41 AM

If you are interested in coaching or have questions, please feel free to contact me.

Please visit my Facebook Page.